Month: September 2015

10 strategies to stop your life spiralling out of control once you become a mum

1. Breathe

Take deep, long , slow breaths as often as you can

2. Make a list

This helps keep your mind focussed on what needs to be done.  Although, even a list can spiral out of control.  But if you do have a list that is spiralling out of control, make another one with a list of things that needs to be done right now.

3. Sleep

The power of sleep is amazing! For your mental wellbeing and your physical health.

4. Exercise

Another thing that needs to be done to keep you fit and well and to show your children the lifestyle that the need to have.

5. Make a timetable

This will help factor in all the things that you need to do in a day before you take on more work or other responsibility unless you plan to work til 2am every night!

6. Prioritise

With so much going on in your life now, you need to sort out what is important and what can wait until you have more time. Focus on what is important. Make sure you factor in the time it takes with the school run, cooking, exercise, admin work etc.

7. Live your life for now

Plan your lifestyle for now. You can’t think that if I do this then I will have this routine forever.  Things change, your job and interests change.  Nothing is for life anymore. Obviously, save and plan for a future but don’t always keep looking into the future and worry about not having enough money.  Even your millions could disappear in a flash.

8. Unexpected things will happen

It doesn’t matter how much you plan for something good or bad to happen there are some things that you just can’t control.

9. Enjoy the moments

Look at the colours of the leaves on the tree. Look at your beautiful baby sleeping for now. Look at your daughter giggling for no reason. Remember to stop and enjoy the moment.

10. Change your mind set to be happy  

If you plan for bad things then bad things will happen. Sometimes its almost like asking karma to do the bad things that you are worrying about in order to justify your worries. If it’s meant to be it will be, nothing is going to change that. So try and stop worrying and think of happy things.

At the beginning of the week, I’ve been thinking that my life has been spiralling out of control and I can’t cope with my life the way it is and then unexpected things happened. But this is my life and I can be in control of how I face it and I can be happy. So the above is the talk I had with myself! Now I’ve got to put it into practice.

The Very First Week Of School

My daughter has almost completed one week of school. With all the rushing around over the last week, making sure I had everything and trying out the school run in between work and then actually starting school, I haven’t had a chance to stop and think until today. The whole idea of her starting school still seems a bit surreal and I’ve been nostalgically looking through her baby photos and videos not wanting to believe she’s almost 5. She seems to have settled in well after the first few days of bawling her eyes out and saying she doesn’t want to go to school. Today, she still said she didn’t want to go but for the first time, there were no tears just lots of hugs and a promise from me to pick her up at 3. We did have to talk through this on the walk into school though. She asked me to pick her up at 2 but I had to explain that I couldn’t because school finishes at 3 so I will pick her up then. I feel happier that I can leave her without her being in tears.

I knew the school run would be long and tiring especially as I will be sitting in rush hour traffic but to be doing this for next 18 years or so is already filling me with dread. Since we didn’t get any of our catchment school, the school we are going to takes about 1 to 1.5 hours there and back which I will be doing twice a day FOREVER! I’m leaving early so that she gets to school on time but the journey back is full of traffic. Also, at the moment I’m walking her in and waiting for her to go in and stop crying and clinging to me. Hopefully once she settles in, I can cut out about 20 minutes but it is still a long trip. I’ve already started looking for houses near the school although we still haven’t decided what our long term plans are for moving houses and possibly schools.

We’ve already had homework and reading books which at the moment is fine and easy to do. I’m sure once we get into a routine everything will be all okay but at the moment I feel like I’m constantly running around, working and doing things til late into the night and then have to get up early to start the day and I miss sleep so much. Today, I had absolutely no motivation to do any work, mainly because I was tired but Wednesday is one of the only days where I get the whole day to myself – no kids, no husband so it should be a productive day. But I resisted it so much today and spent the day dreaming about not having to work for a living. I would watch day time TV while eating breakfast and lunch, go to a yoga class, maybe even have a nap, read a book and I would do a little bit of work if I got a bit bored. I’m dreading tomorrow when I will have to catch up on everything I avoided doing today.

Not really a motivational saying this week but just something to tie in with schools: