Month: August 2015

It will be alright in the end

I’ve been thinking about what theme to write about on this week’s blog. Maybe my kids as it’s summer holidays and I decided to keep the girls home for the week. Neither of them went to nursery, so all week I’ve been getting up without an alarm clock which has been so nice! But trying to work with them at home has been a bit of a nightmare. How much snacks do they need and how do they get crumbs everywhere?

Then I thought about writing about how stressful work is and how I wish I could drop one of the contracts so I would have more time to spend with the girls and chill out a bit but I do like the work. They’re both a bit different. I earn the same with both of them and I don’t know which one I would drop. I do hate working into the evening after the girls are asleep so I will need to work on that. Plus all the school holidays, what will I do with them when I’m still working? And how about homework?

Then just about an hour ago I thought, I’m thinking about this all wrong. I’m worried about work, worried about not spending enough time with the girls, not having enough time to do everything and relax. I’m wishing I had a different job where I can just do term time or just work half a year. The more I worry or think about the bad things that could happen, the more I might be drawing the bad things towards me. Also, I have reiki, so I can wish good luck on my work and prayer for things to work out.

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From Yoga Girl by Rachel Brathen

My advice to a younger me

Whenever something similar to this has come up in the past, I’ve never had an answer for it.  Also, I smugly think that all of life’s up’s and down’s have made me who I am so I should be grateful for that.

Then the other day, while I was begrudgingly working when I would rather spend time with the kids, I thought to myself I wish I’d worked harder when I was younger. I wish I had strived to earn more and invested my money better, then I could have spent more time relaxing now.

This is the first time (since I was a kid) that I have thought like this.  The first time I have wished for something other than I have. I do have a lot which I am truly grateful for but on days when work gets tough and I get shouty with the kids, I want to pack it all in. After this seed had been planted though, I started thinking about what other things I had wished I had known or I had done earlier.  So here is my list:

  1. Work hard, strive to earn lots of money and save, even if its only a little.
  2. Don’t worry about getting married or finding your true love.  If it’s meant to be, it will happen and sometimes you have to take a risk.
  3. Don’t worry about having kids.  If its meant to be, it will be.
  4. When you look back at life, you will remember the amazing things you have done, even if at the time, some things were a bit scary.  It will be a brilliant experience and a wonderful memory to look back on.
  5. Always find some time to exercise, read and laugh. Always find the time for the things that make you feel happy to be alive.

Timesheets!

I hate timesheets! For most of my working life I’ve been using timesheets that you’d think by now, I’d be immune to them. Being self-employed means I have to account for every hour (minute even) that I work before I get paid. I completely understand the justification of it and in theory it really is a good idea but for some reason, I still hate doing them.

At the moment, there are some days when I do a bit of work and then my daughter needs the toilet (we are in the midst of toilet training and so I drop everything when she says she needs to go!), I take her, come back and something else has popped up so I get distracted and start doing that as it seems small and I think I can do it quickly. But then, before you know it, the whole day has gone and I’ve not recorded what I have done and how long it has taken me except that I know I’ve been working all day.

On days like that, the best thing to do would be to try and remember everything and write it down while I still remember. Obviously, I don’t! I faff around and think I’ll write it up tomorrow because I won’t forget. I’ve tried using a phone app, pen and paper and spreadsheets. Nothing seems to tempt me into writing up my timesheet. Considering that I like writing so much, you’d think I’d love this opportunity to write down every last detail of what I’ve done in the day.

In the end, I check the emails I’ve sent on those days to recall what I did, I check the audit function of the accounting packages I use and I get there. I bet if it was called something else, I’d happily sit there and complete it. Or maybe it was because I was attempting to work from my mum’s house this week. I think I just need to get my mind around it and maybe call it a blog!

Cultivating your talent in 17 steps

  1. Buy a notebook and write stuff down and reflect on it
  2. Watch the skill being performed
  3. Choose 5  minutes a day every day to practice
  4. Practice alone
  5. Think in images
  6. Pay attention immediately after you make a mistake
  7. Take a nap
  8. Read, close the book, write a summary
  9. Stop before you are exhausted
  10. Just before you sleep, watch a mental movie of you performing your talent
  11. Embrace repetition
  12. Don’t waste time trying to break bad habits – instead build new ones. Ignore bad habits. Build new habits by gradually increasing the difficulty, little by little.
  13. To learn it more deeply, teach it.
  14. Give a new skill a minimum of 8 weeks
  15. When you get stuck, make a shift.  Do it slower, faster, upside down, inside out.
  16. Cultivate your grit
  17. Keep your big goals a secret.

After reading ‘The Talent Code’ by Daniel Coyle, I decided to write down the main points that I thought were relevant into 17 steps above.  Now I’ve just got to get round to doing it and one day in the future, teaching this to my girls!